But this is often our own fault. We spend so much time and energy demonizing those opposed to LGBT equality that we completely lose sight of the fact that a majority of people really have no idea what we’re so upset about. Because straight people have so many rights that are automatic, especially those inherent in marriage, they don’t actually think about those rights very often.

A lot of people I have spoken to are under the false impression that same-sex couples, for example, can get all the same rights as a married opposite-sex couples have just by taking the extra step of going to a lawyer and signing some contracts. They often assume that we all have access to domestic partnership benefits.

We really need better PR.

What you are saying is second biggest problem with the whole gay movement. The biggest being the apathetic behavior of our young ones. Second, is the happy go lucky unassuming and quiet homo in the corner.

No.

Have you ever seen a pride parade in the smaller towns? They are downtown on a weekend usually. You know who is downtown on the Weekends? Virtually nobody. The main-street of america is abandoned during the weekend.

So the question is if a fag or a dyke shouts in the concrete canyon and no one can here them, do they really make a sound?

No.

People don’t even know what is going on. They don’t see us because we are good homos who hide downtown away from the respectable people. ANd explaining things to them won’t do the job.

You want to change their impression? Do you really want to blow their mind?

March in their suburbs. March in their places of congregation. And march in professional attire with placards saying what our jobs are in front of us.

Invade their space and give them an non stereotypical and generally accepted impression of us. Take away their comfortability. Take away their safe space away from us and take away their expectations of us.

I am not saying we shouldn’t party. I just think we need two parades. Because we need to go where they are and get in their face.