Corvino: Clay’s gay. So what?
Clay Aiken is gay. This is not news.
Lindsay Lohan might be gay, too. (Her answer during a radio interview was noncommittal enough to leave room for “clarifications” later.) Big yawn.
You know what would be news? It would be news to learn that a well-known pop star called People magazine to say “I’m gay!” and People responded with a “So what?” I long for the day when a star’s coming out is not worthy of magazine space, much less a cover story.We have not yet reached that day.
Clay Aiken’s coming out was about as surprising as Elton John’s, only less courageous. (Remember that John came out 20 years ago, at the height of the AIDS crisis, when gay sex was still illegal in many parts of this country.) For years, certain bloggers have referred to Aiken as “Gayken,” a practice as lazy as it is childish. An online poll revealed that 96 percent of respondents were not surprised by his announcement.
The other 4 percent, presumably, also insist that Liberace was merely “artistic.”
I certainly don’t mean to criticize Aiken for his honesty, and I can’t blame him for wanting to capitalize on it with a cover story. I have no idea what People paid him for the scoop, if anything, but I suspect he got more than I did when I came out in an op-ed in my college paper. (I think they gave me a coupon for a free pizza.)
Incidentally, that was in 1989, a year after Elton John came out as gay. It was harder then, no doubt because so few public figures had done it.
Aiken’s coming out adds to that growing list of public figures, and for that we should be thankful. There are interesting dimensions to his story, including his identifying as a born-again Christian and his generally wholesome image. (My late grandmother, like many grandmothers, adored him on American Idol.)
Some might hope that his revelation will reach a demographic not otherwise friendly to gay issues, reminding them that we truly are everywhere. I’m skeptical. Aiken just had a child out of wedlock, via artificial insemination, with a much older female friend. His fellow born-again Christians will likely see him less as a role-model than as a cautionary tale.
So if progressives shrug and traditionalists scold, what can Aiken’s coming out teach us? Two things, I think.
First, that if you’re going to use the “My sexual orientation is private and none of your business” line, as Aiken did repeatedly, then don’t be surprised if few care when you announce your gayness on the cover of People.
Aiken is hardly alone in exploiting the ambiguity of the claim that sexual orientation is “private.” Private in the sense of being deeply personal and deserving of non-interference? Absolutely. Private in the sense of being secret? Only if you insist on making it so.
That was Aiken’s right, of course. But it was also our right to notice his doing it. It was not our right to nag him about it—he was young, and still figuring it all out—but it was our right to refuse to go along with treating gayness as somehow unspeakable. Aiken’s story underscores how the convention of the closet is crumbling. This is progress.
The second thing his coming out teaches us is that while simple honesty is good, it is no longer enough. It may be enough (for now) to get you on the cover of People, but it’s not enough, I’ll wager, to get readers rushing to the newsstands.
I’m surprised, frankly, that it’s still enough to get you on the cover of People—even if you are the most famous American Idol runner-up ever (my grandmother went to her grave insisting that Ruben had robbed him of the rightful title) and you have a cute baby in an unconventional family arrangement. I don’t expect People to be The Economist, but I do expect something fresher and more stimulating than “Yes, I’m Gay.”
And so let me close with a plea to our LGBT organizations. For the love of Jehovah, don’t invite Aiken to headline fundraising dinners or pride events unless and until he actually does something more to advance gay rights.
“Yes, I’m Gay” may be enough to impress People. It should no longer be enough to impress us.
And that, too, is progress.
John Corvino, Ph.D. is an author, speaker, and philosophy professor at Wayne State University in Detroit.
For over 15 years he has traveled the country speaking on homosexuality and ethics. His writing has been featured in regional and national periodicals, at the online Independent Gay Forum , and in numerous scholarly anthologies. His column “The Gay Moralist” appears Fridays on 365gay.com.
For more about John Corvino, or to see clips from his “What’s Morally Wrong with Homosexuality?” DVD, visit www.johncorvino.com.
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I think we’ll reach a point where coming out isn’t a cover story, but it’ll *always* be news for magazines like People. But hell, who’s dating who is news for them, so at least implicitly coming out will be news – when they show someone dating another person of the same sex.
Clay Aiken became an adorable lesbian sans carpentry skills in People? Clay Aiken is one of the heroes in our struggle for mainstream acceptance and tolerance. It’s obvious to me that this will prevent many from being victimized because of their perceived sexual orientation. Yup, the homophobes will think twice now that Clay Aiken’s a proud gay warrior.
Being assessed on character rather than mere superficiality is the reason to fight for tolerance and acceptance…when it won’t take bravery or be perceived as requiring it to be openly gay. But the luxury of pontificating about that occurs only in the twilight of should and is.
Just so you know, I really didn’t give a damn when I saw Clay on the cover announcing his sexual orientation.
I agree with you–why is this news, and why is it worthy of the front-page??
Some of us have better things to worry about than what might be going on in Clay Aiken’s bedroom.
Also, aren’t we perpetuating the myth that we really care about his personal life by posting this blog and responses to it? Hmmmm….on that note, I am leaving!
Of course no surprise and who really cares the music isn’t interesting at all.
But, please, lets not start congratulating him and making him grand marshall etc…..the real story will be when he gives up his hate-filled religion.
How can he come out and not renounce being born again? I’m surprised Mr. Corvino didn’t take up that thread…being born again is about denying reality, science and the immature hope that you can do whatever you want in this world as long as you appear to be pious, so that you get raptured. Sick stuff…..and the stuff of hypocrites.
Stating the obvious is not news, and doesn’t really help. Speak out against that which has brainwashed you will help us move towards a world free of hateful religious dogma.
I’m no fan until he quits that christian cult…
He’ll be Grand Marshall in “pride” parades for years.
Well I am not a fan of Clay’s music. To me, I always thought it was a given that he was gay, and having a relationship with a woman, and then a kid was just typical drama.
It didn’t impress us much or surprise many people because most people thought he was gay anyway. We were just waiting for him to come out (which I’m glad he wasn’t forced to but came out on his own terms).
Re rjb… Clay who?
Who?
So Clay “G”Aiken gets a pat on the back (and I suppose some money) for finally seeing what the rest of the world could see, before he even knew it. I have known many young people who took some time to understand who they really were, and spent many years denying their nature and actions with much force and offensiveness. Eventually, they came around to their basic and perfectly normal nature, and eventually were happy productive people in society.
I certainly would have appreciated some money to help me over the hump of loosing one life and starting another. It is neither a cheap nor an easy transition to make. And it is never fully an overnight transition.
Of course we all would have like to receive the approval and acceptance from our family, friends and colleagues from the very beginning. And that does not always happen smoothly.
It took a couple of years to come to an understanding of the change and what it meant to me and those around me. Even after 3 years, my parents were a bit reluctant, and somewhat abusive (mentally an physically) before they began treating me and my partner (then of 2 years and now after 32+ years) as humans, and with dignity. It was not fully to be until after 6 or 7 years that they came to see what type of home we built and how we were respected in out jobs.
On the whole, being simply a kind, self-supporting, decent and moral person (or couple) provides a wonderful example to everyone around.
But this example is not one that every BGILQT… can follow. I have known some who are just as bad as the heterosexual trash they “ape”. Fortunately they have been few and far between.
So Clay, get a grip and quit being so full of yourself! Just be a great example for your child and those who follow your career. You put your pants on just like everyone else, and when the time comes, you will die just like other humans. Let us hope you can live with dignity, and take care of your own WITHOUT being a burden to anyone else.
I have been a father of 3 children for a long time. My youngest child is 4 and my oldest is 17. I was out, like Prof. Corvino, in 1989. I married the woman who is the mother of my children, but I also accept the fact that gay men can and sometimes to get married. Clay’s being gay and a good role model is great for his son, but is not newsworthy in People magazine. If People is looking for a cover story, I am available, but I will not hold my breath waiting for the phone to ring.
I’m no fan of Clay’s music, but I admire the fact that he came out to set a better example for his kid. But still, I agree with Prof. Corvino that that alone won’t make him some kind of hero. Especially since it was hardly news in the first place.