November 21st, 2009
 

365 Gay: Opinion

Corvino: We’ve still got far to go

, columnist, 365gay.com

I’m not usually a touchy-feely, share-your-emotions, “Trust the Process” kind of guy. I’m a philosophy professor. I revel in cold, hard logic.

So it was with some trepidation that I signed up as a faculty member for Campus Pride’s annual summer Leadership Camp-which, since it was mostly run by lesbians, student-activities directors, and lesbian student-activities directors, promised to involve a lot more “processing” than I’m normally comfortable with.

To me, “faculty member” normally means strolling into a lecture hall a few times a week, speaking, answering questions, and then retreating to my office while TA’s keep students at a safe distance. Here, it meant being a full-time camp counselor, den monitor, relationship-advice provider, and taskmaster. (Faculty are volunteers who pledge to raise money to support Camp; students’ tuition is subsidized by donations.)

To me, “camp” normally means archery, canoeing, bonfires, and so on. Here, it meant six straight days of workshops-on subjects ranging from Working with Media, to Leadership and Privilege, to Fundraising Tips, to Resume Building and more-with a schedule running from 8:30 a.m. to at least 11 p.m. every day. (We did get to make s’mores, once.)

And what did I learn during this intense time with our movement’s future leaders?

For one thing, I learned that our right-wing opponents should be afraid. Very afraid.

The 50 campers were some of the brightest, most energetic, most thoughtful college students I’ve encountered in over a dozen years of teaching. I could comfortably retire from advocacy work tomorrow knowing that these young people are primed to take over.

But I won’t retire tomorrow, because I also learned anew how much work remains to be done.

One of the main reasons I volunteered for Camp was to explore a personal concern: namely, that my “Gay Moralist” angle is rapidly becoming obsolete. Sure, there are still people who believe that same-sex attraction is wrong, shameful, unnatural, and so on, but these people are allegedly being replaced by a new generation for whom gayness is a non-issue. For this new generation, coming to terms with gay identity is scarcely an accomplishment-or so rumor has it.

The rumor is badly wrong.

The truth is that even among bright, energetic, thoughtful, educated GLBT youth, the struggle for self-acceptance is often painful. That’s not merely because adolescence is painful, period. It’s because personal identity and social identity are intertwined, and these kids have family, neighbors, teachers, elected representatives and even friends who are NOT THERE YET.

I wouldn’t deny for a second that, on average, GLBT youth today have it easier than their predecessors. One of the most poignant moments of Camp was watching the students – most of whom are around 20 years old – interact with 84-year-old movement veteran Frank Kameny. In 1957 Kameny was fired from a government job for being gay, which sparked him to spend the rest of his life fighting for equality. This year, Kameny finally received a formal government apology. When President Obama signed the memorandum granting partner benefits to federal workers, he handed his pen to Kameny.

It’s because we all stand on the shoulders of people like Frank Kameny that these youths may see more progress in the next decade than he witnessed-and personally fought for-in the last half-century.

And yet, the fear of rejection is still present, and real. The closet, though shrinking, is real. The pain and the tears and the wasted energy…all real.

These obstacles are especially formidable for those at the margins-for example, those whose identities don’t fit into neat gender dichotomies, or those whose challenges are compounded by issues of race, religion, class, and so on.

We spent a lot of time talking about “privilege” at Camp. As an affluent able-bodied white guy who frankly enjoys his comfortable surroundings, I find such discussions unsettling. And as someone who spends a lot of time fighting the religious right-not to mention detractors within the GLBT community-I’ve developed a pretty hard shell. One needs it in this line of work.

Yet for all my resistance to touchy-feely processing, I’m grateful for an opportunity to be jolted out of my complacency. I’m grateful for the visceral reminder that, despite all of my education, and the nation’s progress, and my own best intentions, I still have a lot of learning to do.

I left Camp with a deeper sense of the movement, its challenges, and my own role in it. And if that could happen to me-a jaded 40-year-old philosophy professor-I can only imagine how profoundly the youth were transformed. My thanks to all who were involved.

For more about Camp or to support its work, visit CampusPride.org.

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John Corvino, Ph.D. is an author, speaker, and philosophy professor at Wayne State University in Detroit.

For over seventeen years he has traveled the country speaking on homosexuality and ethics. His writing has been featured in regional and national periodicals, at the online Independent Gay Forum, and in numerous scholarly anthologies. His column “The Gay Moralist” appears Fridays on 365gay.com.

For more about John Corvino, or to see clips from his “What’s Morally Wrong with Homosexuality?” DVD, visit www.johncorvino.com.


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  • GrinCanyon Said: August 11th, 2009 at 8:09 pm
    • As a gay identical twin with a straight gay twin brother and with a good friend also with a gay/straight identical twin combo, I’ve never bought the genetic argument. The studies which suggest that stress induced pregnancies increase the gay population (re: gay population increase in London for births from pregnancies during the London blitz), the impact of the hormonal environment–specifically the androgens like testosterone–which differs between one womb environment and another, even for identical twins, and other collateral growing evidence gives lie to these so-called religious and moral arguments. They give lie to the ‘choice’ which many believe is open to gays who know from a very young age of their same sex attraction, an attraction likely driven by androgen level during a stress-induced trimester of testosterone and other androgens washing the fetus. This doesn’t even begin to broach the studies which track the statistical increase in gayness in subsequent male children so that the more a boy has older brothers, the greater the likelihood that the younger child will be gay. This is logical as the mother, one gender, has to have an immunological ability to prevent her body from eliminating the fetus–particularly if the fetus is of another gender (male). So, the first male stimulates that immune system and subsequent male pregnancies increase the chances of that fetus being gay–the younger gay brother syndrome–so that the more older brothers one has, the greater the likelihood that that younger one will turn out gay as hormonal level adjust to the mother’s immune system’s response in having to prevent her body from rejecting the growing fetus. I leave it to medical researchers to discuss the pathway for female homosexuality, but it is obviously also related to hormonal influence as CAT scans of female brains looking at the corpus collosum (which is the connecting communication bundle between the left and right hemispheres of the brain and a major result from gender changes induced by hormonal washing) show gay females to have brain which reflect the shape of straight male brains with smaller corpus collosums. This increases the ability of males to focus (and ignore or shut out information) while the communicative bundle in straight females increases commmunication between the two hemispheres (ever talk to a woman who manages to monitor multiple conversations at a party while the male focuses on one conversation). So, my argument is for greater research. It is for ridiculing these out-moded religious, moral and other arguments for a process obviously driven by hormonal influence. It makes as little sense as “reparative therapy”. Of course, my social cynicism can’t help but raise its head at the vast potential for the ignorance of society to be stupid.

  • Wayne M. Said: August 6th, 2009 at 9:04 am
    • Empowering LGBTQ youth to be leaders for equality and liberation is the best way we have to sustain gains we have made and continue to make gains. We need to support more camps such as this and Camp fYrefly in Canada.

  • Twisted Pride Said: August 3rd, 2009 at 12:30 pm
    • @Leo Murrieta Thank you! We need so many more people like you.

  • Leo Equality Murrieta Said: August 1st, 2009 at 11:36 pm
    • Firstly, thank you.

      The day that I came out was quite possibly one of the worst days of my life…

      I’m one of those mentioned that isn’t priviliged; I grew up in poverty, my father used to be a pastor, my family is deeply religious, lastly, my entire family is from Mexico and very much attached to the traditions of my parent’s generation.

      I came to accept who I was in time to do something with myself, I’m now the political correspondent for the citywide gay magazine in my city. I’ve taken it upon myself to keep my generation informed on what is happening in the world, and how it would or will affect us.

      I find great satisfaction in hearing that other young people are out there standing up for the LGBT community, (notice everyone puts that one differently “GLBT/LGBT”), but there is always room for more bright young people to step up and take our movement for equality into the new millennium.

      Thank you for realizing that our generation is able and will soon be ready to stand for our rights.

      Leo in Las Vegas
      http://www.citizenzero.us

  • Twisted Pride Said: July 31st, 2009 at 8:59 pm
    • I’m not usually a touchy-feely, share-your-emotions, “Trust the Process” kind of guy. I’m a philosophy professor. I revel in cold, hard logic.
      —-
      I am the complete opposite and sometimes my opinions are mis-guided and mis-directed, however I do speak from the heart.
      I learn so much from Dr. Corvino and his readers….I thank you all for the education.

  • Yukkuri Said: July 31st, 2009 at 6:45 pm
    • This is the best work I’ve read from you so far.

      I’m only 17 now and I remember how at the very last week of school, we had an English final, a presentation detailing ‘Who and what we are’ and I ended up coming out to some thirty more-or-less total strangers (in that everything they’d known up to then was a lie) at the same time. And it was great. There was acceptance.

      The painful part is that only two people in my family know- my mother and my older sister. And I’m fine with that, and they’re fine with it too, and they seem to love me more than ever for having the courage to do what I did.

      My story is pretty rare in my experience, but I don’t plan to waste it. I seem to be the only ‘approachable’ gay male at my school, with all the others having some oddity that makes people shy away, and even now over the summer I get people asking me questions about being gay, have I been discriminated against, the works.

      I don’t plan to waste this opportunity, that’s for sure.

  • Lincoln Said: July 31st, 2009 at 4:35 pm
    • Mr. Corvino,
      I am the partner of one of the campers from the Pride Leadership Camp. She is twice the age of all the other campers and this was her first “Camp” of any kind.
      After reading your column at 365gay.com I felt the need to let you know what an impact it had on her.
      Tami had never been part of gay life before we met. She was out and proud, but that was about it. She had never been to any Pride event, did not vote, or keep up on gay related news. I am the activist and took her to her first parade. She realizes now that she can make a difference and there are people who are working at every level to create change. She is glad now that I have been reading the gay news out loud for years, your column being one my favorites.
      This camp woke her up. She was exposed to a wide variety of people and situations that touched her. She almost chickened out as she was the oldest (42) and felt backwards, but she hung in. She stayed after blowing out her knee on the DC trip. She was also worn out from the amount of activities, but she hung in.
      This camp did so much to prove to her that she could do anything she wanted to and to be an active member of our population. The information and networking the camp offered is invaluable and she plans to do her part to keep this energy alive and share it with her school. I am so proud of her.
      Thank you for your part in this transformation.
      BJ Lincoln

      PS. I have been sending my Mom your column for years and there has been a better understanding between us. Thanks

  • Dr. Peter Said: July 31st, 2009 at 4:16 pm
    • Dr. John Corvino:re “We Still Have Far to Go.”
      I have been following your thoughts (reading your work) for a long time now, and the above mentioned article of yours is–by far–the best, most honest, relevent, most openly ‘real’ piece of work I have had the honor of sharing with you! My respect and admiration for you and your work only continues to increase. Thank you.

      Respectfully

  • nisomer Said: July 31st, 2009 at 2:29 pm
    • john, you were an awesome den leader and i continue to look up to you. thank you for this column and letting the world know what great things we are doing.
      -nick

  • Sarah Hammel Said: July 31st, 2009 at 1:54 pm
    • John, you were an amazing faculty/staff member at Campus Pride. You taught me so much through your workshop on morality & I thank you for that. I hope you got at least half of what the campers got out of this experience. It was probably the best 6 days of my life. Thanks again for being a part of it. :)

  • Kari Said: July 31st, 2009 at 1:39 pm
    • I’m concerned that people don’t realize that getting equal rights will not be the end of our struggle.

      Blacks, the Jews, Women, etc. have been legally equal (or near-equal) for a while now and racism, sexism and antisemitism are still very much a part of our society.

      Homophobia will not go away if we get equality… But equality is a prerequisite that must be accomplished before there is any hope of it going away.

      Even now in the US, where interracial marriage has been legal throughout the country for over 40 years, people are still much more likely to marry within their own racial group and view those who marry outside of it with suspicion.

      The Gates arrest and the Sotomayor confirmation hearings have confirmed that racism is still an element of American society, even though, in principle, there is full legal equality.

      No, getting legal equality is not the end of our struggle. If anything, it’s only where the real fight, the fight to stamp out homophobia, begins.

  • Gerry Fisher Said: July 31st, 2009 at 1:33 pm
    • As someone who has developed and delivered diversity training, I have had some profound experiences in sessions that involve “processing.” I’ve also been in processing sessions that have made me prefer sticking foot long needles into my eyes than sitting through another minute of trite, empty emoting. It all depends on the purpose of the processing and how skillfully the presenters can link the exercises to the purpose.

      Sounds as if you attended a good one!

      Besides, isn’t (well done) emotional processing a familiar cousin to the rational processing of philosophy? In both cases, you’re trying to figure things out. But you’re using different types of data in both processes.

  • Hannah Niemietz Said: July 31st, 2009 at 1:16 pm
    • This was great, thank you.

      My peers have been pretty accepting, for the most part. It’s the lack of supportive authority figures (read: parents, family) that makes it difficult. The next generation of LGBT people will have examples of successful authority figures from the current generation. I hope to be an example of success, I’m just not there yet.

 
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