Meanwhile, I plan to send letters to him demanding marriage equality for this part of America.

I have never hesitated to write to a past president and to e-mail legislators and governors about gay issues of the time.

Rodney, there is no justification for or room here for personal attacks on another person and that is what you are doing here to me, Rodney.

Being frustrated and impatient with a poliitical outcome is no reason to be mean to others on this site or to insult and to attack them as you have done to me.

You always see this argument come up. And in fact, it’s exactly the way things ought to be. It’s also NEVER going to happen.

Or at least to put things in perspective, you think the battle to get same-sex marriage available to all in the United States is going to be long? Just consider how long it would take to convince a majority of the population to completely give up legal marriage and exchange it for civil unions. I don’t think the kids being born today would see that happening in their lifetimes even if we got started right now.

To our opponents losing the CA fight meant in their minds encouragement of unstoppable legal gay marriage all over America and eventually a million gay marriages across the land and progay marriage lawsuits left and right if attempts to stop and/or take away gay marriage occured and to some of us it means a loss of marriage equality in what was one of only 3 states to have it, plus an emboldened enemy out to roll back gay rights whereever they exist.

Fortunately, statewide gay marriage did exist in CA and we gay Americans have had gay marriage there as a precendent fact of life and of law and we will not stop until gay marriage returns to CA state law whether Schwartzeneggar wants to stand up and fight for it to come back or wants to be “a girlie man” and sit on his hands and be a “do-nothing”. Unlike some time ago when he pledged to fight for gay marriage.

As for Vermont, I of course encourage gay Vermonters and their straight allies there to fight for their marriage rights inspite of the fact they know to expect little good their way from a Republican governor who shouldn’t be running a place like Vermont, especially if he is going to be so heartless (as most GOP governors are like my state’s GOP ex-gov. Ehrlich was) and stand in the way of his own citizenry’s needs.

The attorneys of New England based Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders if I got GLAD right are predicting that the last 4 New England states will likely have legal gay marriage by 2012.

Then likely will come gay marriage in New York State and New Jersey. Since New Jersey is already confronting the reality that civil unions aren’t working there, chances are that gay marriage may happen in New Jersey within the next couple years putting pressure on Maryland which has been another scene of an unsuccessful fight for gay marriage.
Maryland gays lost the court battle for gay marriage when Maryland’s highest court reaffirmed Maryland’s existing man-woman standard for marriage in Maryland.
Neighboring Delaware has a DOMA of its own. Hopefully neighboring New Jersey getting gay marriage and Delaware’s growing resident gay beachside population will put the screws to Delaware to scrape its own antigay marriage law and become the 1st state in the upper south and the 2nd state in the Mid-Atlantic region to have gay marriage.

New Jersey is more of a northeastern state as are New York State and New England and is where gay marriage will increase fastest and Delaware and Maryland are both southern states but very moderate southern tempered by MD’s closeness to Pennsylvania and Northern DE’s closeness to New Jersey. Virginia is very southern away from its northern region and hell will freeze over before Virginia gets gay marriage.

I am thankful for Connecticut getting gay marriage as CT is my birthstate and CT brings gay marriage one state closer to New Jersey.

Anyway that’s things look from my perspective from a upper south state with a Mid-Atlantic ocean coast to the east, mountains to the west, a huge bay with a struggling seafood fishery, farmland in the center, north and south, west and east of the state and culturally between north and south. Unlike in Virginia (where smoking is still allowed in restaurants) Gay marriage is one day possible in Maryland (which is modern enough to think of a statewide restaurant smoking ban) but hasn’t reached that point yet.

Not only that,, every Latin based language has two distinct words for marriage which is the CIVIL institution and the religious institution(aka sacrament) known as matrimony. Marriage is and has always been, long before religious concepts were imposed upon marriage, a CIVIL institution.

Civil unions were invented in 1999 in Vermont as a second class, separate and (un)equal institution for gays. Equal marriage and ONLY equal marriage should be our goal, accepting civil unions for gays or working to make civil unions universal is the absolute last thing we should do. Civil unions are worse than nothing.

I say any f*cking gay “leaders” who tell us to wait and the likes of Morgan who get in our way, we should treat them as the enemies of equality that they are.

We will never get equality most less respect if we keep allowing a pass to both our “friends” and “allies” as well as our enemies. Civil unions are garbage, the past 9 years have proven this fact over and over and over again. We will NEVER see marriage equality unless we fight NOW!!! If we fight now, we might have to wait, but we’ll never have marriage equality if we take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism as proposed by the scummy likes of Morgan and other Uncle Tom “leaders” in the gay community. We need to fight NOW, not later.