Study: Low self esteem leads to risky sex
12.03.2008 8:46am EST
(Toronto, Ontario) Gay men who are not considered sexually desirable are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior, according to researchers at the University of Toronto. They may also develop psychological problems as a consequence of feeling undesirable, the study said.
Adam Isaiah Green, Assistant Professor of Sociology at U of T, interviewed dozens of gay men in Toronto to determine what qualities made some men more sexually desirable than others, and what the consequences of being undesirable might be on mental and physical health.The study appears in the December issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior.
“I found that young, white, middle-class men are considered much more sexually desirable than men who are racial minorities, over 40 and poor,” Green said.
“I also learned that for gay men, being considered sexually undesirable can have serious health consequences ranging from psychological issues to risky sexual behavior.”
The study – among the first to examine the link between sex and mental health – found that undesirable gay men face stigmatization, avoidance and outright rejection, which can lead to depression, anxiety and alcohol abuse.
It also highlighted cases in which undesirable gay men will forego safe-sex discussion and, in some cases, condom use, in the context of sex with a more attractive partner.
“We tend to devalue sexual life as something that is extracurricular and frivolous, but this research shows a significant link between sexual desirability and health,” said Green.
“Men with low levels of ‘erotic capital’ are systematically marginalized, which can take a real toll both physically and psychologically.”




This story is sad, but true. I was like that when I was younger, until I finally wised up!
And that’s why “learning to love yourself is the GREATEST love of all.” But it’s easier said then done.
Just remember that your life is worth more than just one night of unsafe pleasure. Have fun, but play safe.
And keep in mind that the self is not something you find, but something you create. So stop looking…
Thankfully, as an older man in his 50’s I have other inner resources and other more lasting source of self-esteem and that I am not dependent on fleeting sex appeal derived from fleeting youthful looks to live life more fully.
I am seeing some white and nonwhite men together (I am male) and hopefully that trend will increase more and more as people look past skin color and see the worth, value and character of men instead of basing sex-appeal on what is merely a surface.