Comments on: `Humpday’ explores intimacy of male friendship

By: Will Jay

Will Jay — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 23:21:48 +0000

I do not agree with Morgan. Most of the smalltowns you have listed are commercialized ‘gay-friendly’ towns – did you about all of them in the back of the Advocate?
Where’s your Mommy, does she know you’ve been going online to a gay site wit out her knowledge?
Not everyone grew up in a “Wonderful Sugar-coated Gay-Friendly Small town”, some of us had to hide it or be subject to torture from the homophobes.
I bet your family threw you a coming-out party when you told them you were Gay.

By: Travis from Washington (vote NO on 71)

Travis from Washington (vote NO on 71) — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 22:57:59 +0000

Not everyone is herterosexual and not everyone is homosexual – in fact 80 percent of the population is in fact BISEXUAL

1948 Kinsey Scale:

0 = 100% heterosexual
1 = heterosexual with a gay expericence
2 = heterosexual with 3/4 gay experiences
3 = equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 = gay with 3/4 straight experiences
5 = gay with 1 straight experience
6 = 100% gay

Which one are you on the scale??????

By: pedestrian

pedestrian — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:50:06 +0000

Jeff C, nobody thinks that straight men constantly fantasize about having sex with each other. Believe it or not, gay men don’t constantly fantasize about having sex either.

The point is that sexuality is at least somewhat fluid. You know that it is fluid, or else you wouldn’t be so paranoid that straight men might be convinced that it is normal to “go gay” by a stupid movie.

If gender and sexuality were as rigid as you claim, people wouldn’t alter their behavior based on what movies portrayed as normal.

By: boB

boB — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 19:54:10 +0000

When I was in the service “I did not have sexual relations with strait men.”

By: R & R

R & R — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 19:40:14 +0000

Jeff C said: “This is the kind of thinking that gays try to force on heterosexual men in an attempt to convince them that they are not acting normally by being heterosexual.”

I would ask what valid research supports this accusation, the Cool Aid Study?

By: Jeff C.

Jeff C. — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 19:11:58 +0000

sounds like a real family movie to me. Once again, filmmakers are trying to convince the average male that “everyone has thoughts of gay sex and it’s perfectly normal to act out these thoughts in a safe environment with a trusted friend. This makes me want to throw up. SARK says that he believes two straight men would have sex just to prove they can because that’s what straight men do. What fantasy world is he living in? Believe it or not, unlike gay men straight men do not spend every waking moment of their lives thinking of sex with someone of the same sex. It is not NORMAL, and the average straight man does NOT have gay sex just to prove that they can. This is the kind of thinking that gays try to force on heterosexual men in an attempt to convince them that they are not acting normally by being heterosexual.

By: Bama-Stu

Bama-Stu — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 18:55:53 +0000

I live in a small town in Southeast Alabama. I am constantly amazed at the number of “married” men have gay sex on the side and don’t consider it cheating because it’s not with another woman. Most “straight” men are just a few drinks away from having a “gay” experience anyway in my experience.

By: pedestrian

pedestrian — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 18:35:21 +0000

Usually when straight guys end up in gay situations, the joke is on gay people. In this case, I’m not sure. It may mark a genuine step forward in our shift from a culture of heteronormativism.

The dirty secret is that most straight men are perfectly capable of having sex with men, and know it. That is the root of a lot of homophobia. Most gay men are also perfectly capable of having sex with women, but this is thought of as less strange because it is “normal”.

By: Morgan

Morgan — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:43:54 +0000

Not all small towns are bad. Depends on where you are. Provincetown is quaint, nice and fun. Saugatuck, MI is a quaint and quiet small town, but a gay-friendly one. I like Mendicino, CA and Tofino on the west coast of Vancouver Island in British Columbia. Cape May in New Jersey with its quaint Victorian downtown, well-kept up candy-striped (color-wise that is) houses and elaborately-trimmed Victorian-era sea-side motels is well-worth visiting. As is Milton, Delaware with its collection of Victorian style houses in ice-cream type colors with “ginger-bread” trim.

So depends on what small town you are refering to. Not all small towns are horrible places in need of escape.

By: Paul from Maine (vote YES for Equal Marriage)

Paul from Maine (vote YES for Equal Marriage) — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 07:55:00 +0000

Who cares if the adult men having sex with other adult men are gay, bi, straight, whatever – fuck the labels.

SO LONG AS THERE GOOD LOOKING!!!!!