it was about sexual rearrangement/
despair/ rock music/
monster legends

believing that what you see is not necessarily what is or what is supposed to be

why must the unenlightened assume kind people are weak people?

time on their hands, did they ever exercise a brain cell to imagine another s angst?

sadism is not stength.

is this precognition? or a prophet playwright?

‘certainly not a profit playwright

“Maybe his partner is bi? Or bi enough that she’s willing to maintain a relationship with a person who is transitioning?”

Or maybe his partner isn’t so fickle that his physical form is all that matters. Seriously, there comes a point in a relationship where a person’s looks cease to matter and you are in love with the person inside. When that happens it shouldn’t matter how they look.

Looks fade. Sexual desire wanes. Love, if true, persists.

“What I don’t understand is that Chastity/Chaz’s partner says she supports her/him in this transition. Maybe it’s just a lesbian thing. I can’t imagine a gay man being “happy” if his partner wanted to become a woman.”

I understand where you’re coming from, but if you really cannot understand why a gay man might be happy to stand by his partner under such circumstances, I genuinely feel sorry for you.

As I’ve already said in response to this topic, I have a good friend who is transgendered and went through the sex change process a few years back. Before she realised she was transgendered she lived as a gay man, and had been in a relationship with a man for eight years when she decided she wanted to transition.

I won’t pretend it was easy for either of them, but she is now a woman and they are still together. In fact, they were married last year and are now seeking to adopt a child. They are very much in love and have, as far as I understand, a very healthy sex life.

I didn’t understand it at first, but my friend’s partner explained to me what went through his mind at the time. Initially he considered what he would do if his boyfriend, as he was, was badly injured in an accident that left his face and body burned. He considered whether he would still want to be with him, and decided that he would.

Now, I know that hideous burns and a sex change are very different things, but the principle is the same. He was basically asking himself if he would still want to be with his partner if he was no longer sexually attracted to him, and he ultimately concluded that he had fallen in love with a PERSON, not a SHELL.

As it happens their love has grown through this and they are still very attracted to one another. My friend is a straight woman. Her partner is a gay man. They are very much in love.

It doesn’t always happen that way. I have another friend who remains biologically male and has no intention of undergoing a sex change, but has lived as a woman for many years now. When she first started living that way she’d been in a relationship for three years. Her partner broke up with her after only a couple of months, describing her as “sick” for dressing in women’s clothes.

Not all gay men can handle it, just as not all straight men would be able to handle it if they found out that the woman they’re with used to be a man. It comes down to the character of the individuals involved and the strength of the love between them.

It’s difficult, but relationships can survive a sex change, whether it’s male-male, female-female or a formerly heterosexual coupling. I don’t have to imagine it – I’ve seen it happen.

Couldn’t have said it better!
Christina in AZ

But this sad lady gets a sick pleasure out of putting down men every chance she gets.

To me women and men are equally wonderful each in their own unique way, and to go through life bitter, mad or ridiculing toward either gender is just not healthy.