Gays have been spending the better part of the last 40 years trying to convince people that we aren’t gay because we have sex with men. Not because we think men are cute, and not because we have a problem with vaginas.

I’m gay because I am ONLY compatable with men on an emotional level. I can only form the same kinds of emotional attachments with a man that heterosexual men form with women. I’ll never want to MARRY a woman, because a woman will never be able to fill that part of my soul that is only filled by my partner(no pun intended).

A gay man can have sex with women, and NOT be bisexual. Just like Larry Craig can be a MSM and still be what I whole-heartedly consider straight. Men in prison have sex with each other all the time, and the vast majority identify as straight.

Like the other poster said, straight people treat bisexuals like they are gay, because they have gay sex. Many gays don’t like bisexuals because the vast majority of them are really just straight people who don’t have a problem screwing men. I don’t know a single person who identifies as bisexual that has ever settled down with someone of the same sex in an actual long term relationship.

This very topic is the reason why the health people invented the term MSM(men who have sex with men). Because of the huge number of men who would never say they were gay, but that will admit to having sex with men, then running back to their wives.

As a bisexual, I can definitely say that bisexuals want to not be seen as some alien being! It’s definitely made more difficult not being able to identify as much with gays (because I’m not “gay” enough) nor with straights (because I’m part gay).

It’s simple: when I meet someone and feel attracted to them (for whatever reason, be it they’re cute, funny, intelligent, etc.), I feel attracted to them. Their gender is completely irrelevant.

I always like to say the following: people think it’s easy because I’ve got twice as many people to find, but that just means I’ve got to sort through twice as many people to find someone!

I met a guy one afternoon in a gay bar who I didn’t know was bisexual until he invited me to come to his house. He told me that he is bisexual and that his WIFE was home, but that it would be OK because we would be going to the basement. He also said that she might join in, but only if I wanted her to.

I didn’t care that he was bisexual, and I didn’t care that he was married, but I did care that he wanted us to play while she was in the house.