Comments on: Appeals court: No parental rights for lesbian mom

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 15:36:34 +0000

I agree with Patrick’s comments – what happened to “best interest of the child”. The child is 5 yrs old and both women have been the parents all that time. I have two daughters biologically. My husband came into the picture when OUR girls were very little but due to our State laws is unable to adopt them. Regardless of what the future may hold for our relationship, it would be horrible for our children if he were ever denied access to the girls because he couldn’t adopt them. He is the dad as much as I am dad. I find these cases so tragic for the children and incredibly selfish and short-sighted on the part of the biological parent.

By: Gerry Fisher

Gerry Fisher — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 13:22:39 +0000

I don’t understand how you can simultaneously inform someone that you don’t want them to co-parent your child AND seek a civil union. It doesn’t make sense to me.

By: Disgusted American

Disgusted American — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 12:23:36 +0000

my sister is a “mom” to a 5yr old whom she helped her partner adopt financially at 6months old( my sister paid the 20-30k)in Guatamala, my sister is “CC” her partner is mommy….they Live in Va. (very Unfriendly gay state) – they broke up within the past 6months..and luckily, since my sister makes the 6 figures..her X, isn’t keeping thier daughter from her…(my sis pays day care and other expenses,and has her 4 days every other week) …I think its a disgrace that this lesbian in the story can’t wrk it out fr thier childs sake.

By: Alex H

Alex H — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 04:31:10 +0000

Although this law really doesn’t take the child’s best interest into account, as long as it has been applied equally to heterosexual couples who are in the same situation–and it seems as though it has–we can’t argue that it’s unfair.

IMO, the law should be changed because a person can be more of a parent to a child than someone who just gives birth to it or signs some legal document stating it.

By: drewski

drewski — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:57:38 +0000

I know I’m not really thinking this out too much, but I’m tempted to say that there should be a legal obligation for the bio parent to put opposition to co-parenting on record. The adult who messes with a child in this manner is being selfish and manipulative–your now-ex was good enough to change the diapers, but then it’s OK to just strip that person out of a child’s life? NO. The consequences are very unpredictable, but they’re not likely to be positive. If this woman didn’t want her then-partner to be part of her child’s life, then that was reason enough for them to not live together. That child isn’t a baby doll, he’s a real little boy, and it was wrong of his mother to play house.

By: Alex Rivlin

Alex Rivlin — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 21:24:44 +0000

This is very sad, but this is no different than if a heterosexual couple got married and the stepparent was never allowed to become an adoptive parent. The heterosexual couple divorces and the stepparent doesn’t get custody.

Adoption policy reform may be needed, but but I do not think of this as anti-gay discrimination.

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 21:12:04 +0000

So it grazed over them having a conversation before the union that the birth mom did not want to allow the other woman to adopt or even consider herself a parent of this child. If that is the case then she needs a reality check. How could a person in good conscious have another taking care of the mental, developmental,physical and emotional well being of a child and not consider them a parent? My heart pains for this woman. Seeing things like this make me afraid of that type of relationship. I don’t have kids of my own and to be barred from being with one I have nurtured for so long would be agony. For that woman all I can say is lesson learned.

By: Dave W

Dave W — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 19:34:57 +0000

Bad most of all for the child…and terrible publicity for our movement.

I know women have a drive to reproduce (please don’t bother attacking me, I’m sure many men do too). I know many lesbians with babies.

It is just sad and hurts us all, mostly the child, when it is done rashly and without proper legal protections, up front.

Can’t expect all lgbt’s to be the best citizens when it comes to this, of course, but this type of media coverage will hurt us nonetheless.

By: Bud Burgoon-Clark

Bud Burgoon-Clark — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 18:22:47 +0000

Using children as ammunition in a nasty breakup battle isn’t limited to lesbians … straights do it all the time.

The WORST part about it is that gay/lesbian people who engage in these tactics just feed the opposition’s argument that we SHOULDN’T be allowed to have/adopt/foster children.

By: nonbiomom

nonbiomom — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 17:51:51 +0000

support group for NON BIO MOMS.. you are not alone..
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