November 21st, 2009
 

365 Gay: Living

Tis the Season: Finding a safe space for spirituality

, Special to 365gay.com

Tis the season to be shopping, overeating, running around like a chicken without a head and deferring sleep until the 26th of December.

Tis also the season, though, to take time to reflect on the past year and upcoming New Year, the time to reach out to help others who might be in need, and, for some of us, the season to connect with the religious part of ourselves. Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Ramadan, or Bodhi Day, you can find services where you don’t have to worry about being turned away because of your sexual identity.

Thankfully, we are living in a country during a time where you can find an LGBT or LGBT-friendly religious institution during the holidays – or any time of year. So don’t be left out in the cold. Whether you are reconnecting with a religious affiliation from childhood or just curious about a religion that may or may not be familiar to you, there is a warm group waiting to welcome you.

The Metropolitan Community Church, is the “world’s first church group with a primary, positive ministry to gays, lesbians, bisexual, and transgender persons.”

MCC has a presence in just about every continent. Thousands flock to this lively organization, which began in 1968, to connect or reconnect with their Christian practice. Reverend Nancy L. Wilson, moderator of Metropolitan Community Churches, says, “this Christmas season, more than 250 local MCC congregations located in 28 countries will offer holiday programs and services ranging from children’s programs and special sermons to candlelight services, special concerts, Christmas pageants, social events, and programs to provide food, clothing and gifts to those struggling in today’s difficult economy.”

For those of you who celebrate with latkes and dreidels, the World Congress of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Jews is a great resource to get your bearings on where you can safely and queerly celebrate Hanukkah this year.

Started in 1974, the organization now boasts 50 chapters in 14 states. The World Congress pledges that “our vision is an environment where Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) Jews worldwide can enjoy free and fulfilling lives.” Check the World Congress site to find local services near you.

Kwanzaa, the annual African American celebration of family, community, and culture, is not just for heteros. With the theme, “to define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves, and speak for ourselves,” the 21st annual LGBT Community Kwanzaa will be held at the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Community Services Center in Manhattan’s West Village Dec. 27.

Co-hosted by more than a dozen queer, minority organizations, this event promises to be a lively and well attended. The program includes a full day of activities, starting with an African Market and ending with Karamu, the community feast.

Western Buddhists are known for being especially tolerant of sexual diversity. In fact, that’s what makes Buddhism so appealing for many formerly Jewish, Christian, and otherwise LGBT folk.

The Gay Buddhist Fellowship in San Francisco and Queer Dharma in New York City are two LGBT-specific Buddhist organizations that you can join. Soka Gakkai International (SGI) is not an LGBT Buddhist organization, but they are known to be very diverse and inclusive.

While there is no official Buddhist holiday at the end of December, (Bodhi Day, or the day that commemorates the Buddha’s enlightenment, is often celebrated in December, but the date varies depending on the lineage), the Buddhist Sanghas, or centers, offer regular sessions where you can meet like-minded religious folks in a safe atmosphere throughout the holiday season and any other time during the year.

Al Fatiha is an LGBT Islamic organization that “promotes the progressive Islamic notions of peace, equality and justice. We envision a world that is free from prejudice, injustice and discrimination, where all people are fully embraced and accepted into their faith, their families and their communities.”

The organization is a non-profit NGO, founded in 1998. Al Fatiha now runs seven chapters, all of which are in the United States. The organization is extremely politically active, participating in everything from asylum support and HIV/AIDS work to interfaith outreach and education and advocacy. They also hold retreats and conferences in conjunction with Families of Color Network, a project of the national office of PFLAG.

Believe it or not, there is even an organization called A Common Bond, which is a worldwide support network for GLBT former and current Jehovah’s Witnesses, with chapters in Atlanta, New York, San Francisco, Honolulu, Mississippi, Arizona, Pennsylvania, Arkansas, New Hampshire, Palm Springs and Texas.

Jesse Dean, communications director of ABC, said, “we seek to move beyond the intolerance displayed by Jehovah’s Witnesses in matters of sexuality and religion and kindly implore the “Society” to focus instead, on open theological discussion.” While typically Jehovah Witnesses do not celebrate holidays, the organization did hold a gathering on December 7th and, “some begin to celebrate holidays and start individual traditions while others are uncomfortable in celebrating holidays. We provide non-judgmental support to any personal decisions in this regard,” offered Dean.


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  • Andres Said: January 2nd, 2009 at 1:58 pm
  • montrealbren Said: January 2nd, 2009 at 11:14 am
    • While your article was informative, I would’ve liked more info on the churches that have always accepted us. The many you describe are new religious entities. There are a few that have been in this country for centuries, they are Christian (!) and they don’t treat us like lepers. Unitarian Universalists, Quakers (I think), and many Episcopals, for example. I think a lot of GLBT people would be surprised to hear that there have always been churches for them to attend in the US. While the majority of Christian denominations seek to demonize us, a minority loves us as equals in the eyes of their god. No Christian myself, I still feel these few, long-established churches deserve a lot of credit: they put up with a lot of crap from their fellow Christians because they refuse to discriminate.

  • TANK Said: December 26th, 2008 at 2:45 pm
    • They wish to remain inconspicuous and out of the way, jack. But if you must have one (and just the one), perhaps they could disappear.

  • Jack Fritscher Said: December 25th, 2008 at 11:50 pm
    • And not even a teensy-weensy mention of what GLBT Catholics might do. Hmmm.

  • Casey D. Said: December 24th, 2008 at 5:11 pm
    • Definitely don’t forget the Unitarian Universalists! That’s a HUGE hole in the story. I’m a gay UU, our fellowship’s Rev. is a gay and our fellowship has many LGBT people in it.

  • Pete Said: December 23rd, 2008 at 11:37 pm
  • Neil Said: December 23rd, 2008 at 10:52 pm
    • Sorry, but I don’t understand those who wish to continue their subjugation in a religion of their choice.

      Then again, to each their own.

      And, although I haven’t really looked at the Wiccans or Pagans recently, I do remember when I was interested in those religions back in the early 70’s here in Denver. I was told repeatedly by many of those practicing Wiccans/Pagans (the line was rather blurred back then) that “perverts” were not welcome.

      From what I’ve heard they’ve both come a long way in the last 35 years. But their recent roots are not as pristine as they would have you believe. Perhaps their historical roots are moreso . . . but, like so much in life, it isn’t what used to be but “what have you done for me lately?”

      Neil

  • Trace Said: December 23rd, 2008 at 5:48 am
    • Thank you for the nice article. As noted by the survey earlier this month, there are many of us here that are people of faith.

  • TANK Said: December 23rd, 2008 at 1:05 am
    • You win again, potato pancake!

  • Michelle in AZ Said: December 23rd, 2008 at 12:46 am
    • There is a community website that lists all activities for many Pagan/Wiccan/Druid organizations. http://www.witchvox.com
      They have everything broken down by state and city. Although Winter Solstice was yesterday, many organizations choose to celebrate within the week of the holiday, since they understand that folks have to work and such.

  • Jeff Said: December 22nd, 2008 at 4:08 pm
    • I think my original post may not have gone through.

      Although it is not a structurally-organized religion, Wicca (sometimes referred to as paganism) has as it’s core tenet: “An it harms none, do as ye will”. It has a standing of GLBT acceptance long before organized religions began to even consider the ramifications of such acceptance.

      This being said, the wiccan feast day Yule also falls during this holiday season. And yes, Yule is originally the name of the wiccan festival/feast day before it was christianized.

      The following Wikipedia link provides links to other Wiccan resources for GLBT practioners.

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_issues_and_Wicca

  • Jeff Said: December 22nd, 2008 at 4:00 pm
    • While it is not an structurally-organized religion, Wicca (sometimes referred to as paganism) has as it’s core tenet: “An it harm none, do what ye will”. In this it has a long standing of acceptance of GLBT practioners (witches)…long before organized religions had even considered the ramifications of acceptance. That being said, the feast day Yule also falls during this “holiday” season. (Yes, Yule was originally the name for the pagan festival/feast before it is was christianized.)

      The following Wikipedia link provides additional links to Wiccan resources for GLBT practioners:

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_issues_and_Wicca

  • Stephen Said: December 22nd, 2008 at 2:30 pm
    • Kwanzaa is not a religious holiday. And, as so often happens, the Pagan celebration of Yule was left out of the mix. It is the time of the year when the Goddess gives birth to the god. Why do you think Christians chose December to celebrate the birth of their god?

  • CN Said: December 22nd, 2008 at 1:57 pm
  • John Said: December 22nd, 2008 at 1:28 pm
 
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