Comments on: Rudolph: Heterosexual assumptions

By: Anima Sola

Anima Sola — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 17:38:37 +0000

FYI, a sort of “in passing remark” made by Rachel Maddow a few weeks ago had me rolling on the floor. At the end of interviewing some congressman, he closed by saying, “thank you, Sir,” and then quickly apologized for his gaffe. Rachel quipped, “oh, don’t worrry, it happens all the time.” Hah!

By: Daniel

Daniel — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 15:47:16 +0000

Your viewpoint is spot on with how I feel about living an open life. My husband and I don’t have kids yet but some of these issues still come up. Like for example, at work, my new boss, seeing my ring asked how long I’d been married and if we had any kids yet, and I answered honestly. My old boss was in the room and knows I’m gay of course; well during lunch he must have filled her in, because she comes back and she starts telling me about how much she loved Brokeback Mountain. I was amazed when she introduced us to her 6 year old son she said, “This is Daniel and his husband, Erik.”

By: Katie Roberts

Katie Roberts — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:01:31 +0000

I have the same issues with visibility, adding transgender to being queer. People just automatically assume that the “Al” I’m talking to on the phone is an Alfred, not an Allison. >.< I think it’s damned funny when a guy asks me if I have a boyfriend or husband since I don’t give any indicators either way and their running on assumptions. I guess I don’t exude my queerness too much in other people’s eyes, huh?

By: Karl Rosenqvist

Karl Rosenqvist — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 08:17:59 +0000

This is why I always wear a rainbowflag-pin on my shirt, just so people can’t say they didn’t know.

By: Todd

Todd — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 03:36:51 +0000

I wonder why he didn’t think she was a lesbian? It’s more obvious than not imo.

‘More importantly, I want my son to be known for his own qualities, not for the fact that he’s “the boy with the lesbian moms.”‘

It’s just what people do though, like when you referred to Rachel Maddow as an Oxford educated lesbian instead of just a lesbian.

By: Trace

Trace — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 01:50:03 +0000

Dana, I applaud you. I think that your article is one of the most refreshing things that I’ve ever read on 365gay. Thank you for sharing that, it was wonderful!