March 18th, 2010
 

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Lesbian pioneer Del Martin is dead


Del Martin (left) and her partner Phyllis Lyon, being married by Gavin Newsom.

(San Francisco, California) Lesbian rights pioneer Del Martin died Wednesday. She was 87. She and her partner Phyllis Lyon were the first to be legally married in the state of California.

Her wife, Phyllis Lyon was at her side when she passed away.

At a meeting of the LGBT caucus at the Democratic National Convention, Gavin Newsom, his voice breaking, said he had just heard of her death. “Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon defined love, devotion and constancy,” he said.

A statement released later from Barack Obama said:  “Michelle and I were deeply saddened to hear that Del Martin had passed.  Del committed her life to fighting discrimination and promoting equality.  Our thoughts and prayers go out to her spouse Phyllis Lyon, and all those who were touched by her life.”

Martin began working as an activist after receiving her degree in journalism from the University of California at Berkeley. While working on a newspaper in Seattle, Martin met her partner Phyllis Lyon and the two began working on behalf of lesbians in their community.

Martin and Lyon devoted their lives to working towards LGBT equality, healthcare access, advocacy on behalf of battered women, and issues facing elderly Americans. Their many contributions over the past five decades helped shape the modern LGBT movement.

Her last public political act, on June 16, 2008, was to marry Phyllis Lyon, her partner of 55 years. They were the first couple to wed in San Francisco after the California Supreme Court recognized that marriage for same-sex couples is a fundamental right in a case brought by plaintiffs including Martin and Lyon.

“Today the LGBT movement lost a real hero,” Kate Kendell, Executive Director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights said in a statement.

“For all of Del’s life, she was an activist and organizer even before we knew what those terms meant. Her last act of public activism was her most personal—marrying the love of her life after 55 years. In the wake of losing her, we recognize with heightened clarity the most poignant and responsible way to honor her legacy is to preserve the right of marriage for same-sex couples, thereby providing the dignity and respect that Del and Phyllis’ love deserved.”

“The lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community has lost one of its bravest and most admired activists,” said HRC President Joe Solmonese.

“Del Martin dared for decades to fight to marry her beloved Phyllis, and by doing so became an iconic hero the LGBT community. Her death is a great loss to all of us, but her life is an inspiration,” Solmonese said.

In 1955, Lyon and Martin were among the founders of the Daughters of Bilitis, the first lesbian rights organization.

In 1956, they launched “The Ladder,” the first lesbian newsletter, which became a lifeline for hundreds of women isolated and silenced by the restrictions of the era. Del Martin was the first openly lesbian woman elected to the board of the National Organization of Women (NOW), and in 1971, encouraged the board to pass a resolution stating that lesbian issues were feminist issues.

Del Martin’s publication of Battered Wives in 1976 was a major catalyst for the movement against domestic violence. Martin became a nationally known advocate for battered women, and was a co-founder of the Coalition for Justice for Battered Women in 1975.

Martin lectured at colleges and universities around the country. Martin received her doctorate from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in 1987.

In 1995, Martin and Lyon were named delegates to the White House Conference on Aging by Senator Dianne Feinstein and Congresswoman Nancy Pelosi. In 2004,

“Del lived her life with great compassion, wit, tenacity, generosity, and valor,” said The Honorable Donna Hitchens, Founder of the National Center for Lesbian Rights.

“She inspired thousands of us to be more courageous and energetic than we thought possible. When faced with moments of fatigue, laziness or weakness, one had only to ask – ‘What would Del and Phyllis do?’ While she will be greatly missed, her legacy will be cherished forever.”

Martin is survived by her spouse Phyllis Lyon, daughter Kendra Mon, son-in-law Eugene Lane, granddaughter Lorraine Mon, grandson Kevin Mon, sister-in-law Patricia Lyon and a vast, loving and grateful lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender family.

A public memorial and tribute celebrating the life of Del Martin will be planned in the next few weeks.


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  • Pat Said: August 27th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
    • I am so thrilled she was able to see marriage equality before she passed on!! They are wonderful pioneers and brave humans! They suffered more than anyone can imagine and I am so happy Del was able to FINALLY marry her true love! Rest in peace! And thank you from ALL the rest of us who stand on YOUR shoulders!!!!

  • JT Said: August 27th, 2008 at 3:42 pm
    • My deepest sympathies to her wife and family. She accomplished so much and in the last lights of her life, she was finally able to have official recognition of the relationship she’d recognized for much of her life. She showed us the way and now it’s our turn to show the youth of today the continuing path. Rest safely, Ms. Martin. We won’t let you down.

  • AMelia Said: August 27th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
    • The LGBTQIA community will dearly miss her. She was an amazing home and did great things for the community. Like Pat said I am happy she was able to marry her longtime partner. As a young queer activist I have a heavy heart in reading of her passing, but I can only hope that we can follow her example and work within the community with such a passion.

  • CHAD Said: August 27th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
    • MAY GOD shine down upon the both of them for THE ETERNITIES! WHAT teachers of LOVE to this universe. IM SO HAPPY that she was able to get married before this happened. It seems like once June 15 happened her mission was accomplished here on Earth. Much LOVE to AWESOME SOULS!

  • Jane Said: August 27th, 2008 at 4:27 pm
    • Amazing woman.

  • Chris Sullivan Said: August 27th, 2008 at 4:28 pm
    • (Sorry, but I have to continue to laugh at such a ridiculuosly long acronym that some posters use: “LGBTQIA” !) Anyway – yes, her passing is a great loss but her legacy will remain. She led a full life and had her one great love. Though that love needed only her and her partners validation, its nice to know that because of the work that people like her have done – that the day did finally come that her relationship was recognized by the people of her state. While I won’t be happy until this country as a whole has matured enough to treat all gay relationships equally – I’m glad she was able to have her special day.

  • Trace Said: August 27th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
    • “LGBTQIA”

      What the heck? I don’t even know what all those letter stand for and I’m a 40 year old gay man!

      Personally, I prefer Gay and Lesbian. We have enough to fight for ourselves.

  • MNBear Said: August 27th, 2008 at 4:56 pm
    • The timing almost makes one think God was taking special care to ensure she lived long enough to marry her lover. Wouldn’t THAT be a fabulous divine wag-of-the-tongue at those homophobic Jerry Falwell types who always seem to be putting negative words in God’s mouth? :-D

  • Chris Sullivan Said: August 27th, 2008 at 5:07 pm
    • I know the “Q” is for questioning – and I really don’t care what the rest is. It’s gotten out of hand. We really do need on word that encompasses us all. At this rate we’ll have half the alphabet as a title!

  • ray a Said: August 27th, 2008 at 5:18 pm
    • I’m just so happy she was a ble to make her dream come true…..she is a great inspiration for us now to fight againts discrimination

  • Randy Said: August 27th, 2008 at 5:38 pm
    • Phyllis you have my deepest condolences in this time. You didn’t know me or most of the others but you and Del certainly made such a huge impact on on lives and we (I) will have to live our lives to show you that we deserved your sacrifice. you are in our thoughts.

  • Kevin F Said: August 27th, 2008 at 6:21 pm
    • Phyllis, while you and Del would not know who we are, I would like to thank you both for all you have done in the name of equality for all of us. I know that after 55 years it must have been a joyous occasion to finally be married in the eyes of the State. Thank you for the long path you both chose to follow. Your efforts will not be forgotten by those who follow in your footsteps up those marble steps of City Hall as my husband I did on 14JUL08. We couldn’t have done it without you both going first. Thank you… and please accept our sympathies.

  • Richard Said: August 27th, 2008 at 6:40 pm
    • lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, allied.

      my university uses “s” for same-gender loving to be inclusive of people of color.

      and queer is our all-encompassing umbrella term of the moment.

      some of you may be 40 or so, but there’s a lot you need to learn.
      and we have to fight oppression together, not just leave everyone out in the cold on their own.
      that’s how you lose.

  • R. Zeke Fread Said: August 27th, 2008 at 6:40 pm
    • I wish to extend my heartfelt condolences and sympathies to Del’s wife, Phyllis Lyon, her family
      and loved ones. Her life was dedicated to the achieving equality for all GLBT people. We all share in this great loss of such a wonderful woman and her lifelong dream of marrying her beloved Phyllis. Del’s legacy will remain with us always, one we can all learn from and be proud of. I thank God for allowing Del to see her wedding day and finally legally joined with her dear Phyllis. Although it may have been for a short time, I’m sure it was filled with love, joy and happiness. God bless, keep you safe and may you rest in peace our dear Del.

  • David Ehrenstein Said: August 27th, 2008 at 7:17 pm
    • She lived a rich full life of genuine accomplishment with the woman that she loved. Would that we were all so blessed and so fierce.

 
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