I have finished now with what I have to say and I trust the other men here and those women who are fair-minded and tolerant of their gay “brothers”
now have a fuller picture of your ugly attitude toward men.

Couples are all different, just as individuals are all different. Some feel that sharing what they see is acceptable, while others feel differently. The point is to be able to communicate with your partner on what you both feel is the best thing to do.

After all, if one person feels resentment for what the other is doing, then it WILL show in time. Unfortunately, it will not always show itself in a way that connects with the true problem. And sometimes we may even forget why we have been getting upset in the first place.

I’m going to add to what Joe said, something that struck me that he didn’t mention specific to the medical field. (Which he really should have thought of being a therapist IMO *grins*). The medical profession is suppose to abide by the hypocratic oath, right? To do no harm? If your coworkers express disapproval should you decide to come out, aren’t they violating the hypocratic oath? Because the kind of psychological harm that can cause is ten times worse than any physical ailment. People are capable of doing thing that are, medically speaking, next to impossible, aren’t they? Beating odds because they hold onto their hope, their self-confidence and their willpower, healing even when there is no impetus behind the healing. But not even the best doctor can save a person who becomes convinced that they don’t deserve to live and thus doesn’t WANT to be saved. If they are real doctors, who got into the field to try and save people they and not simply to make doctor level money, they will have to reconciling that holding that position isn’t so easy to justify.

To Ramon, and those who disagree with pointing out hot guys to a partner:

Personally, I’m with those who accept it. If it makes your partner uncomfortable, then yes it’s best to shield your comments to protect them, but if the talk of it being disrespectful to make the comments at all, I disagree and hold the opposite. In my opinion it shows a level of trust and respect that you can share who you find physically attractive. It’s something uniquely homosexual, a straight couple generally won’t be attracted to the same gender like a lesbian or gay couple will be. You say should finding other people attractive trump your partners feelings, but I say why should it diminish your feelings for each other? It’s something only people who are comfortable with each other would be able to do. That’s some of my thoughts at least.