Comments on: Ruby-Sachs: Stacy and Karla http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/ The daily news source for the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:11:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: bkbzipper http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51606 bkbzipper Sat, 11 Apr 2009 02:08:46 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51606 We know what your going through, my partner of 4 years is a Trini and we have not been able to find a sponsor for H-B1 for her so we are reduced to only being able to visit each other over the last few years (and I can't move there, as you know being gay is not quite the acceptable lifestyle in Trini). It's hard, but we're holding on. Be strong, and stay hopeful that UAFA passes for all of us. We know what your going through, my partner of 4 years is a Trini and we have not been able to find a sponsor for H-B1 for her so we are reduced to only being able to visit each other over the last few years (and I can’t move there, as you know being gay is not quite the acceptable lifestyle in Trini). It’s hard, but we’re holding on. Be strong, and stay hopeful that UAFA passes for all of us.

]]> By: dave98112 http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51588 dave98112 Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:38:15 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51588 Truly our rights as gays in this country are unequal to straights if I can only sponsor someone for citizenship through marriage if I am of the opposite sex as my foreign partner. This should be upsetting for gays regardless of whether they have a foreign national for a partner or not. You never know when you might meet the love of your life, who happens to be a foreigner! It should be insulting to straights who think they live in a fair and just country. Support UAFA, or get that stupid, dumbass federal law DOMA repealed, asap! I realize that gays marrying locally in certain states is a big plus, but we are still not equal when it comes to federal laws. It's not fair! There are tons of other countries more enlightened than us when it comes to this issue, and we are losing valuable citizens through migration! There are also about 36,000 same sex couples similar to the one featured here! Talk to your representatives about that! Truly our rights as gays in this country are unequal to straights if I can only sponsor someone for citizenship through marriage if I am of the opposite sex as my foreign partner. This should be upsetting for gays regardless of whether they have a foreign national for a partner or not. You never know when you might meet the love of your life, who happens to be a foreigner! It should be insulting to straights who think they live in a fair and just country. Support UAFA, or get that stupid, dumbass federal law DOMA repealed, asap! I realize that gays marrying locally in certain states is a big plus, but we are still not equal when it comes to federal laws. It’s not fair! There are tons of other countries more enlightened than us when it comes to this issue, and we are losing valuable citizens through migration! There are also about 36,000 same sex couples similar to the one featured here! Talk to your representatives about that!

]]> By: bkbzipper http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51583 bkbzipper Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:01:06 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51583 we're working on it too, UAFA is the hope of hopes, praying it passes soon for all of us we’re working on it too, UAFA is the hope of hopes, praying it passes soon for all of us

]]> By: Tim http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51465 Tim Fri, 10 Apr 2009 13:03:46 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51465 @Lisa, I'm feeling the pain too. My partner is American and we have to count on either me getting a permanent work visa in autumn 2010 so I can join him in the US, or UAFA passing. At the moment, we are prepared to wait for another year or so but beyond that, if we want to stay together, he's almost certainly going to have to move to Europe to be with me, either here in Britain, or we go to Spain together. I think at this stage, we have to try to get UAFA to a floor vote in the House. It's with the Judiciary Committee yet and I keep saying to people that we have to get the support of those Democrats on the board who haven't signed on yet. - Dianne Feinstein (D-CA) - Amy Klobuchar (D-MN) - Richard Durban (D-IL) - Herbert Kohl (D-WI) - Edward Kaufman (D-DE) The moderate Republican Arlen Specter could also be swayed, I imagine. Writing to John Kerry to ask him to keep the pressure on the Obama administration may also help. I'm sure Immigration Equality are considering what other bills they can attach UAFA to without much or any resistance from the Republicans; I'm not convinced that CIR is it. @Lisa, I’m feeling the pain too. My partner is American and we have to count on either me getting a permanent work visa in autumn 2010 so I can join him in the US, or UAFA passing. At the moment, we are prepared to wait for another year or so but beyond that, if we want to stay together, he’s almost certainly going to have to move to Europe to be with me, either here in Britain, or we go to Spain together. I think at this stage, we have to try to get UAFA to a floor vote in the House. It’s with the Judiciary Committee yet and I keep saying to people that we have to get the support of those Democrats on the board who haven’t signed on yet.

- Dianne Feinstein (D-CA)
- Amy Klobuchar (D-MN)
- Richard Durban (D-IL)
- Herbert Kohl (D-WI)
- Edward Kaufman (D-DE)

The moderate Republican Arlen Specter could also be swayed, I imagine. Writing to John Kerry to ask him to keep the pressure on the Obama administration may also help. I’m sure Immigration Equality are considering what other bills they can attach UAFA to without much or any resistance from the Republicans; I’m not convinced that CIR is it.

]]> By: Tim http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51463 Tim Fri, 10 Apr 2009 13:00:46 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51463 @Lisa, I'm feeling the pain too. My partner is American and we have to count on either me getting a permanent work visa in autumn 2010 so I can join him in the US, or UAFA passing. At the moment, we are prepared to wait for another year or so but beyond that, if we want to stay together, he's almost certainly going to have to move to Europe to be with me, either here in Britain, or we go to Spain together. I think at this stage, we have to try to get UAFA to a floor vote in the House. It's with the Judiciary Committee yet and I keep saying to people that we have to get the support of those Democrats on the board who haven't signed on yet. - Dianne Feinstein (D-CA) - Amy Klobuchar (D-MN) - Richard Durban (D-IL) - Herbert Kohl (D-WI) - Edward Kaufman (D-DE) The moderate Republican Arlen Specter could also be swayed, I imagine. Writing to John Kerry to ask him to keep the pressure on the Obama administration may also help. I'm sure Immigration Equality are considering what other bills they can attach UAFA to without much or any resistance from the Republicans; I'm not conviced that CIR is it. @Lisa, I’m feeling the pain too. My partner is American and we have to count on either me getting a permanent work visa in autumn 2010 so I can join him in the US, or UAFA passing. At the moment, we are prepared to wait for another year or so but beyond that, if we want to stay together, he’s almost certainly going to have to move to Europe to be with me, either here in Britain, or we go to Spain together. I think at this stage, we have to try to get UAFA to a floor vote in the House. It’s with the Judiciary Committee yet and I keep saying to people that we have to get the support of those Democrats on the board who haven’t signed on yet.

- Dianne Feinstein (D-CA)
- Amy Klobuchar (D-MN)
- Richard Durban (D-IL)
- Herbert Kohl (D-WI)
- Edward Kaufman (D-DE)

The moderate Republican Arlen Specter could also be swayed, I imagine. Writing to John Kerry to ask him to keep the pressure on the Obama administration may also help. I’m sure Immigration Equality are considering what other bills they can attach UAFA to without much or any resistance from the Republicans; I’m not conviced that CIR is it.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51381 Lisa Thu, 09 Apr 2009 22:38:16 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51381 Thank you so much for writing an article about this issue! We really need to increase awareness about UAFA and the painful choices same sex binational couples face. Now that we've seen how expressing our concerns to politicians can have an impact in places like Vermont, it's time to push for UAFA! The more media attention we can get on this subject the better because people currently don't seem to be aware of this issue! We need people to tell their stories, make youtube videos, and write to their representatives! We need people to donate to Immigration Equality , the organization currently doing the most to help UAFA pass! As for me, I'm in the UK with my partner where I can fortunately stay because they allow civil partnerships here that give me immigration rights. But it meant leaving a successful job in the US in a time of recession, taking a step back in my career, and being away from friends and family. No American should have to make the choice between staying with their partner and staying in their country! Thank you so much for writing an article about this issue! We really need to increase awareness about UAFA and the painful choices same sex binational couples face. Now that we’ve seen how expressing our concerns to politicians can have an impact in places like Vermont, it’s time to push for UAFA! The more media attention we can get on this subject the better because people currently don’t seem to be aware of this issue! We need people to tell their stories, make youtube videos, and write to their representatives! We need people to donate to Immigration Equality , the organization currently doing the most to help UAFA pass! As for me, I’m in the UK with my partner where I can fortunately stay because they allow civil partnerships here that give me immigration rights. But it meant leaving a successful job in the US in a time of recession, taking a step back in my career, and being away from friends and family. No American should have to make the choice between staying with their partner and staying in their country!

]]> By: The Menstruator http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51333 The Menstruator Thu, 09 Apr 2009 18:56:35 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51333 This is a great piece. Nice writing. I think bringing a few faces to this subject could really bring the need for actual change to the forefront. Great work. Couples are in this situation all to often with immigration. This is a great piece. Nice writing. I think bringing a few faces to this subject could really bring the need for actual change to the forefront. Great work. Couples are in this situation all to often with immigration.

]]> By: cm http://www.365gay.com/blog/ruby-sachs-stacy-and-karla/comment-page-1/#comment-51332 cm Thu, 09 Apr 2009 18:54:51 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=6524#comment-51332 Been there, done that. I was in a 7 year relationship, that finally fell apart after not being able to be legal residents of each other's country. By the time his country passed same sex couple immigration, it was to late. All the back and forth had taken it's toll. A seven year relationship without one fight, without once ever yelling at each other (the constant threat of not being able to be together helps in that department, I guess). Gone. The stress finally did us in. That being said..., no one's trying to hang me in the public square, but still... I don't think that conservative hate people (did I say hate, I meant straight) realize what they are doing to their fellow human beings. Been there, done that. I was in a 7 year relationship, that finally fell apart after not being able to be legal residents of each other’s country. By the time his country passed same sex couple immigration, it was to late. All the back and forth had taken it’s toll.

A seven year relationship without one fight, without once ever yelling at each other (the constant threat of not being able to be together helps in that department, I guess). Gone.

The stress finally did us in. That being said…, no one’s trying to hang me in the public square, but still… I don’t think that conservative hate people (did I say hate, I meant straight) realize what they are doing to their fellow human beings.

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