Comments on: Duffy: Coming out to fellow soldiers – or not http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/ The daily news source for the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:11:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: sheepdog http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-70745 sheepdog Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:11:53 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-70745 Hey Micheal Duffy - write your old Florida friend at firstnamelastname@yahoo.com !! Best, B Hey Micheal Duffy – write your old Florida friend at firstnamelastname@yahoo.com !! Best, B

]]> By: John http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-65399 John Sun, 28 Jun 2009 15:25:16 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-65399 Homophobes are in a "cultural war" and Gay human beings are their enemy. Homophobes have openly said that Gay people are targeted for genocide and there's no Geneva Convention rules that apply. In addition, the United States Constitution does not cover Gay human beings who are born in the U. S. Being born in the U. S. does not make Gay people "American" as far as homophobes are concerned. I say all of this to ask if any other Gay has ever thought that this "cultural war" creates post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) among Gay people? I think that every Gay American is susceptible to PTSD because of this cultural war that's been declared on us. Don't Ask/Don't Tell is merely one aspect of the cultural war that threatens our existence and, therefore, makes us at risk for PTSD. I just wish that I knew someone on the APA's Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM) Board who could have the diagnostic criteria for PTSD to include the cultural war against Gay human beings and the homophobes who are out to destroy us. Then, all Gay American soldiers could apply to the V. A. for service-connected, PTSD compensation and our country could pay for the cultural war that's waged against us. It'll NEVER happen but I've wondered if other Gay soldiers, sailors, airmen, marines, and veterans have ever thought along these lines. Surely, I'm not alone. . . . Homophobes are in a “cultural war” and Gay human beings are their enemy. Homophobes have openly said that Gay people are targeted for genocide and there’s no Geneva Convention rules that apply. In addition, the United States Constitution does not cover Gay human beings who are born in the U. S. Being born in the U. S. does not make Gay people “American” as far as homophobes are concerned. I say all of this to ask if any other Gay has ever thought that this “cultural war” creates post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) among Gay people? I think that every Gay American is susceptible to PTSD because of this cultural war that’s been declared on us. Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell is merely one aspect of the cultural war that threatens our existence and, therefore, makes us at risk for PTSD. I just wish that I knew someone on the APA’s Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM) Board who could have the diagnostic criteria for PTSD to include the cultural war against Gay human beings and the homophobes who are out to destroy us. Then, all Gay American soldiers could apply to the V. A. for service-connected, PTSD compensation and our country could pay for the cultural war that’s waged against us. It’ll NEVER happen but I’ve wondered if other Gay soldiers, sailors, airmen, marines, and veterans have ever thought along these lines. Surely, I’m not alone. . . .

]]> By: Sick and tired of bigots and want bigots DEAD http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-65358 Sick and tired of bigots and want bigots DEAD Sat, 27 Jun 2009 17:41:57 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-65358 I love having sex with marines THERE HOT!!! and I would love to marry one. I am a 26 year old bisexual male is sick and tired of bigots and cunts like Obama and Govonors of the south that cheat on people. I love having sex with marines THERE HOT!!! and I would love to marry one. I am a 26 year old bisexual male is sick and tired of bigots and cunts like Obama and Govonors of the south that cheat on people.

]]> By: Dallas http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-65138 Dallas Fri, 26 Jun 2009 14:54:20 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-65138 This is a temp assignment. Don't be foolish. When you get back to your unit then that is one thing, but many of the guys you are with now you will never see again. (more than not). As a gay man, that served in the USMC I can tell you that I joined knowing what the reality was. Yeah, its not fair , and it is not right, but it is the reality. As the brave fags before us stood tall and shouted in the streets we too need to fight our own battles to carry their torch on. Do it bravely, but intellegently. Do not let a moment in time blow out your light in a puff of smoke. That is what will happen if your higher ups get wind of you. By DADT regs they are obligated to report any such disturbance. As you know this is completely subjective to their attitude about the subject in their unit. DO NOT take that chance with men you don't know and are going to be leaving soon. Unless you are certian you don't mind going out in a blaze of glory!! Peace. This is a temp assignment. Don’t be foolish. When you get back to your unit then that is one thing, but many of the guys you are with now you will never see again. (more than not). As a gay man, that served in the USMC I can tell you that I joined knowing what the reality was. Yeah, its not fair , and it is not right, but it is the reality. As the brave fags before us stood tall and shouted in the streets we too need to fight our own battles to carry their torch on. Do it bravely, but intellegently. Do not let a moment in time blow out your light in a puff of smoke. That is what will happen if your higher ups get wind of you. By DADT regs they are obligated to report any such disturbance. As you know this is completely subjective to their attitude about the subject in their unit. DO NOT take that chance with men you don’t know and are going to be leaving soon. Unless you are certian you don’t mind going out in a blaze of glory!! Peace.

]]> By: Brandon http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-65077 Brandon Fri, 26 Jun 2009 03:01:31 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-65077 MRR, I came out to myself while in the Military. Not everyone admits it to themselves before they are 18 (17). I encountered a few closet cases and was some how blamed for a divorce (don't ask me, even I don't understand, I never touched the man). I wouldn't go Obligated, more like comfortable. It's a communist society, you don't have to worry about much of anything. MRR,

I came out to myself while in the Military. Not everyone admits it to themselves before they are 18 (17). I encountered a few closet cases and was some how blamed for a divorce (don’t ask me, even I don’t understand, I never touched the man).

I wouldn’t go Obligated, more like comfortable. It’s a communist society, you don’t have to worry about much of anything.

]]> By: lisa http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-65004 lisa Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:38:34 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-65004 Not everyone is out to themselves before they are committed to years in the military. And, if you let the military educate you, you could easily find yourself obligated for a decade. Not everyone is out to themselves before they are committed to years in the military. And, if you let the military educate you, you could easily find yourself obligated for a decade.

]]> By: MRR http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-64924 MRR Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:03:38 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-64924 I really don't understand you at all. You had to have known what you were signing up for at enlistment. You had to have known the exsisting rules. I agree, DADT should be done away with. You should not be discriminated against in any way. But when you enlisted, you put yourself in the position you are in. You knew you could not openly live a gay lifestyle. You knew you would not be able to confide in co-workers or roommates. It is noble to serve your country. And to do so has restrictions. Fair or not, did you think you would be exempt? I am sure there are many ways to serve our country, and live our lives freely. I think you should keep your lifestyle under wraps, finish your enlistment, and look forward to living "Out". I really don’t understand you at all. You had to have known what you were signing up for at enlistment. You had to have known the exsisting rules. I agree, DADT should be done away with. You should not be discriminated against in any way. But when you enlisted, you put yourself in the position you are in. You knew you could not openly live a gay lifestyle. You knew you would not be able to confide in co-workers or roommates. It is noble to serve your country. And to do so has restrictions. Fair or not, did you think you would be exempt? I am sure there are many ways to serve our country, and live our lives freely. I think you should keep your lifestyle under wraps, finish your enlistment, and look forward to living “Out”.

]]> By: drewski http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-64839 drewski Thu, 25 Jun 2009 03:39:05 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-64839 Trust your gut, bro. And thank you for serving your country. Trust your gut, bro. And thank you for serving your country.

]]> By: JT http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-64729 JT Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:46:53 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-64729 I can only guess on how it must feel to not be able to be open with your fellow soliders but if it's just a few weeks,you should keep it to yourself.Thanks for your service and sharing your stories with us.Just know most of all and I know I'm not the first one to say you'er not alone. I can only guess on how it must feel to not be able to be open with your fellow soliders but if it’s just a few weeks,you should keep it to yourself.Thanks for your service and sharing your stories with us.Just know most of all and I know I’m not the first one to say you’er not alone.

]]> By: Troy Ziesmer http://www.365gay.com/blog/duffy-coming-out-to-fellow-soldiers-or-not/comment-page-2/#comment-64719 Troy Ziesmer Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:06:56 +0000 http://www.365gay.com/?p=7927#comment-64719 Is the prize worth the price? Is the prize worth the price?

]]>