It’s time we call her on her homophobic behavior.

Only an asshole would care what goes into an asshole and who puts it there!
Only someone who’s really repressed would attempt to decide for the rest!

However, you are in fact feeding into their hands by acknowledging it is ok to judge people’s sex lives. I know you didn’t say that but by admonishing Bud you imply it is ok.

We got where we are by being out, and lying about who we are now will not help. In fact I believe there is so much prejudice because the straight guys are simply jealous of our sexual freedom. Not to say they want to be free to have gay sex, but just observing that straight guys are incredibly sexually repressed and we are not so much, and they are jealous. That leads to them thinking badly about themselves, being jealous of gay guys doing each other, confusing that with lust and then needing to lash out even stronger to strengthen their straight-ness.

Now, it may be uncomfortable for narrow minded idiots like god is a goofball to here this, but they’d be similarly uncomfortable sitting in on a discussion of straight sexual antics like swinging etc.

This type of sexual experimenting and looseness is ALL OVER our culture and gay men are no different. Admonishing ourselves for being honest is simply the wrong way to gain our freedoms. I don’t want freedom if it means I have to lie about who I am.

I also don’t think we should be running around with banners on our cars saying we sleep around, but that was not Bud’s point. He was simply saying we do what hets do, nobody should be keeping score. And I suspect he wanted to creep God is a Lie out a little bit.

I will never submit to a monogomy requirement. Just like I will not settle for civil unions. Straights do not have these things and changing the rules for us feels like a poll test. Blacks should not have been subjected to them and NEITHER SHOULD WE.

So to Bud: congrats and have fun with your samplings of strange! I enjoy your comments as much as many who have said that and I will never ask you to lie to the haters simply to make me look better.

David in Houston, Butt Buddy, Butt surfing, even hot dog rodeo were all used by religious nut jobs on regular regional newspaper comment sections in Maine during the fight we just lost.

Saying real christians don’t act like that is wrong. Nobody hates and spreads divisiveness and foul language better than christians. GIG is just being true to his cult.

Now, GIG, you are not fooling us even if perhaps you fool yourself.

Not enough gays to grant us equality? What a stupid argument. In fact most of your points are about gay sex and why gay sex invalidates gay marriage. We never discuss sex when two hets want to marry. In fact we almost never discuss suitablility. It is simply stupid and obviously drawn from religious hipocritical practice to raise the bar for gays to marry and use that as an argument for not allowing it. You are simply a bigot and will front stupid arguments to protect your bigotry.

Anyone using the name God is Good must be a total fool anyway. Your god is the most evil of all cult deities man has ever invented. There is absolutely nothing good about this human construct. Perhaps in allowing you to be shallow and narrow minded this god is good for you but I would argue your suffering would end if you gave up this evil god.

Now on to the last point….I haven’t read all these comments but I’m sure it has been brought up: why the obsession with gays and gay sex? It seems to me you are protecting yourself, not society, from this “evil”.

If this had nothing to do with you I don’t see why you’d hide behind delusional medieval beliefs to justify your prejudice. I rather think this is very close to you, as you suggest of others perhaps daddy liked to be your butt buddy, or perhaps you have a hot friend on the football team that you can’t shower with without revealing your “excitement”.

I hope I’m wrong and you are just a bigoted pig, vs. a self hating bigoted pig. Either wayt you have a snout and curly tail and a big fat belly, so it would be no consolation to remove the self hating part.

Pig.

Cody, thank you. Well-written and, I think, on target. It’s a reminder that the bullshit we’re fighting has a lot to do with people who harbor a great deal of insecurity. Their sense of self is warped and damaged. Our opponents are fearful people who are terrified of the risk that comes with self-awareness and with asking questions. Anyone who spends as much time as Maggie Gallagher and her ilk do on micromanaging the lives of other people…it’s usually people with empty lives who feel compelled to comfort themselves by being meddling, isn’t it? It’s a distraction from that sense of emptiness, but they’re so scared they don’t understand that discriminating against other people doesn’t quiet that emptiness or that insecurity. It’s still there, and it will manifest in some other way.